Recently, there has been a considerable amount of animosity generated towards me due to a couple of my recent posts (Manny Pacquiao on Fire and Desiccating), which have touched on the taboo subject of having multiple partners.
Before I go on, I would like to touch on that subject one more time and provide some clarity regarding what I said. I never stated that it is necessarily “right” for philandering to take place (as that is purely subjective), and frankly, I never referred to the subject of having multiple partners as philandering or “cheating” anyway. Rather, I hold the perspective that it is definitely possible for a man to have romantic/caring feelings for and fall in love with more than one woman (whatever the circumstances may be).
On the question regarding whether this is morally “right”---well, that would certainly depend on one’s definition of morality and one’s own set of moral values---that is, if one even believes in the idea of morality. It is a totally subjective matter in and of itself. However, I merely pointed out in my statements that such feelings or tendencies is natural and ever-present amongst animals (especially mammalian species). And, of course, it is a fact that humans are mammals (animals) themselves. And since I feel that it is a natural instinct, then I do not think any external agency should restrict this liberty. However, I do point out that the manner in which this act is committed is totally at one’s own discretion as it depends on various personal circumstances, and it need not be at the expense of attachments and/or the neglect of responsibilities. This is my notion.
Moving on---the original motivation for this post is the hateful reaction I received from a great number of people---most of whom came from this particular blog’s entry ( chuvaness.livejournal.com/736207.html ). I guess the “violent” reaction should have come as no surprise as most unconventional (though not necessarily invalid or false) ideas have been rejected by the herd of society. Such is what happened with Galileo, Socrates, Charles Darwin, Mohandas Gandhi, Jose Rizal, and even Jesus (if he did in fact exist)---as these people were persecuted, exiled, and/or killed for what they believed. In essence, you are rejected, ostracized, and/or attacked if your ideas conflict with that of the stronger majority---just as what happened in my case upon stating my own opinion and personal beliefs. If I had expressed an unpopular idea a few centuries ago, perhaps the penalty would have been closer to lynching, disembowelment, or the like---but then again, what am I saying, assassination is still very much a possibility today if an idea angers enough people (especially if it involves the political and religious arena).
After reading the words of “war” that were machine-gunned at me, I began giving some thought as to what type of people constituted this massive opposition. After looking over the blog where they primarily originated from and their comments, I came to the conclusion that most of these people fall into one of two categories (if not both): elitists and conquistadors.
It was not hard to see the elitist nature of some of these assailants. First of all, the blog of their origin focuses on subject matter that is not necessarily typical, relevant, or of utmost importance for a third-world country. These are some of the same people who are disgusted to brush shoulders with the poor commoners and is likely why some of them took an interest initially in my story because I chose to give up the comforts of modern life to immerse myself in the unforgiving and cushion-less life in the provinces. Along with the aristocratic fancies, arrogance emanates so profusely through their language that it is not difficult to deduce that many of these people are part of the nobility of the Philippines. And some of these people are also part of one of the primary reasons the Philippines remains as impoverished as it is. These elites constitute one end of the extreme wealth gap where money and also power remain concentrated amongst themselves, leaving the masses suffocating in poverty. Even most of their “philanthropic” deeds are misleading and worthless in the long run as the money ends up getting funneled back to their pockets anyway, since they (and their businesses) are at the top of the food chain---making progress very difficult even for the most ambitious commoner. This is a major part of the corrupt system that is in place and is the daunting giant that cannot be dismantled because it is able to consume virtually anything that may pose as a threat or competition---very much similar to the herd mentality that executes anomalistic minds.
This brings me to the next breed---the conquistadors. These are the people who seek conversion, or else (insert intimidating and/or violent verb here)… Should you happen to stray from their beliefs, they will take it upon themselves to “correct” you (or destroy you if you resist). Similarly, Ferdinand Magellan and the Spanish conquistadors of yore attempted to convert Lapu Lapu and the native Filipinos to Christianity and change their way of life (and obviously, by force, they eventually succeeded). The same kind of act was committed in the attacks I received for my own personal thoughts and beliefs where these conquistadors lashed me with words of war, attempting to seek my retraction and/or conversion, or suffer the consequences. And I chose the latter. It is quite ironic that these people (and even the Spanish conquistadors/“messengers of God” who were massacring natives in order to convert them to Christianity) who allude to Biblical moral principles are the same ones committing acts that violate those very principles. It only makes me question even more their already questionable beliefs.
Indeed, ingenious systems have been set in place that allow the elites to exploit, manipulate, and maintain control over the populace. Big businesses control the food supply (agriculture and processed foods), addictive products (fast food, liquor, pharmaceutical drugs, etc.) reel in the ignorant/weak-willed masses and their cash, showbiz sells and dazzles the crowds, and politics remains as the art of corruption. Undeniably, the schemes are ingenious. And perhaps one of the longest-running business schemes of them all is religion itself, where groups of very clever individuals long ago formulated a means of taking advantage of human fear of the unknown and transforming it into power for themselves by creating a religious script (e.g. the Bible, Koran, etc.) to brainwash the masses and a place to conduct the business (e.g. a church, mosque, etc.). These elites would then work together with the conquistadors to spread the word (deception), to herd the people (customers), and to protect and enforce their ideas (the process of conversion). To broaden the scope even more---to an extent, the elites are also the major influencers of civilization itself, as they have the power to ensure that the laws in place, the values taught, and their version of “morality” are all geared to their benefit.
With such overwhelming powers controlling so many aspects of our lives, what can we do? Indeed, there is always the option of leaving it to natural selection---otherwise known as “survival of the fittest,” but not necessarily in the traditional sense anymore. In this manner, we would just play them in their own game---attempting to outsmart the deceptively clever elites and get a larger piece of the pie (wealth, power, etc.). But I believe that, for the most part, that’s already naturally taking place.
I also offer the reminder that power can also come in numbers. The masses are just that---they are the multitude. This is why revolutions are sometimes successful at removing problematic figures in power. The only problem is that revolutions do not always place an ideal figure in replacement or they do not totally reform the problematic governmental system. Moreover, masses are difficult to coordinate, organize, and mobilize. This is why a military was created (an organized mass)---and whoever controls that usually controls the nation. Regardless, masses can equate to power when effectively motivated and synchronized.
And finally, perhaps one of the most powerful pieces of advice I can give is to hold onto your beliefs. Just because what you believe is vehemently rejected and/or attacked by society, it does not mean that it is a worthless idea or one that should be sacrificed. If you have given your thought ample judgment and carefully considered its balance of positive and negative attributes and it still stands, then it is a thought worthwhile of holding on to. Such unique thoughts unfazed by the pressures of society are the ones that constructively and creatively contribute towards the healthy balance of our collective ideology. Always remember, if you throw away your own thoughts and freedom of thinking, then in essence, you not only discard the worth of yourself but you throw away your own very being in the process.